Do Relationships make us less intelligent? Judging by some of our behavior we do out of love or misconceived notions thereof would suggest that being with someone does indeed damage your brain cells. Now this isn't me pointing a hypocritical finger at anyone, because my own unique case of brain numbing love actions shall be discussed here as well.
Let’s look at case #1 for people's sake I will just call this girl Kay. Kay was a girl that I met on twitter after I posted a message and she said she had felt the same way about what I said. We talked on aim a few times and she told me about her situation. You see Kay and her boyfriend had broken up over six months ago but they still lived together and shared a bedroom no less. Kay clung to some hope of salvaging her past relationship while he lay next to her dirty talking and flirting with other girls on the phone. She would post internet updates that they were cuddling or laying together and he would become furious at her, because she was trying to ruin what he had with other girls, yet she still lives with him today.
Here is where the story gets really funny to me. Kay has a guy that she likes back home in another state and when her live in ex isn't around it is him that she is posting status messages about. Well Kay told me that she was looking for a new place to live, but got enraged like the hulk and refuses to talk to me after I told her that it is probably best for her not to jump out of an emotionally draining relationship and chase after some guy in another state. She even literally said "Why not?" Ironically after a couple of nights posting about the cowboy, and not even 24 hours after she went apartment shopping because she couldn't stand her mistreatment anymore she is back posting status messages about her "horrible" ex and what they are doing together.
Case #2 is no other than yours truly XM. When thinking about how feelings for someone have caused me to act stupid it is hard to narrow it down to one specific time. There is so erhm scratch that there are too many times I am guilty as charged. I've written cheesy love songs by request I have been in fist fights, I have seen so many terrible movies, things that I would never do otherwise, well except for the song part.
If you ask people that I talk to on the internet I am mostly a relaxed, fun, flirty individual. If you are a girl and my friend you might find a little nice @ reply on twitter or an e-mail that I send for the sole purpose of making you smile. For some of my favorite people who shall remain nameless I throw out a random "you are gorgeous" well because it is true, they don't hear it enough, and I think it makes them feel good for just a minute even if it is a crappy day. Mostly I am calculated and keep my distance. I say nice things but I am always respectful of my friends and do my best not to cross any lines. I am methodical by nature I plan moves ahead of moves, I prepare for every social situation. I always know what I should say. I am empathetic of people and I really make an effort to connect. I try to always stay level headed and rational.
To cut this self appreciative nonsense short the point is when I have feelings for someone all of that personality disappears it is as the person I described the previous paragraph never existed. I become brash, impulsive, I jump to conclusions, and I dive headfirst sometimes. I don't think before what I say. Sometimes that presents with some beautiful poetic moments that the girls from my past that don't hate me remind me of from time to time. However most of it just winds up putting me in trouble. I go from being the guy that has the answers to the guy that has insecurities and questions. Love is my kryptonite it leaves me weak.
The strange thing is I realize these things about myself obviously, yet to quote Meat Loaf here "I would do anything for love” Well almost anything anyway. Again that shows people's silliness that would do anything for love honestly. People have killed for it, ate bugs, gone on reality TV with Flava Flav for 3 seasons, get rejected by Flav and get 2 seasons of their own love search. Hell even the Trojan War was started over Helen "the woman who has such beauty that it launched 1000 ships"
Well in conclusion clearly I am just bitter and single = ) I know when I find someone I will be brash and impulsive once again. I look forward to it; maybe I am crazy, or a glutton for punishment or something else who knows
PS I am starting a new little mini segment about people on the internet that I find interesting. I sort of started it with Tahlia last weekend; today I am highlighting someone dear to my heart Sarah @wood.
Now Sarah can be considered as my favorite person on twitter. She always posts something that makes me laugh, she is gorgeous, but mostly she is really cool and down to earth. She does some cool videos like a week in her life, but she keeps it real and works hard at a real job as well. Her followers are thousands but she always answers her mail. Follow her on twitter, and give her some nerdtainment. I try to at least, but I epic phail her on that.
So here is my internet salute to you my friend.
Find her at:
http://twitter.com/sarahatwood
http://sarahatwood.net/
Ok I’m done being lame
If you are reading this be safe, be happy, and to rob Springer "Take care of yourself, and each other"
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